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The question:
What is the ruling of residing with a disbeliever mother?
The answer:
All praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Peace and blessing be upon whom Allah sent as a mercy to the Worlds,
upon his Family, his Companions and his Brothers till the Day of Resurrection.
The mother should be obeyed and treated with goodness and kindness. We should also consort with her kindly even though she
is a disbeliever but with disavowing her Shirk (ascribing partners to Allah) and trying to invite her to Islam. This should be the case
with all the relatives. In fact, hating disbelievers and polytheists does not mean that it is permissible to wrong them whether by words or
acts, Allah  said:
﴿وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلى أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ
لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلاَ تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفاً﴾
[لقمان : 15]
The meaning of the verse:
﴾But if they (both)
strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the
world kindly﴿ [Luqmân: 15].
Allah also said:
﴿وَاعْبُدُواْ
اللّهَ وَلاَ تُشْرِكُواْ بِهِ شَيْئاً وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَاناً وَبِذِي
الْقُرْبَى وَالْيَتَامَى وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْجَارِ
الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ
أَيْمَانُكُمْ﴾ [النساء: 36]
The meaning of the verse:
﴾Worship Allâh and join
none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, Al-Masâkin (the poor), the neighbor who is near of kin, the
neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess﴿ [An-Nissâ' (The Women): 36].
The Prophet  told the man who came to him to ask who of people is
more entitled to be treated with the best companionship: "Your mother". The man said: "Who is next?". The
Prophet said: " Your mother ". The man said: "Who is
next?". The Prophet said: "Your mother". The man said: "Who
is next?". The Prophet said: "Your father".
Thereupon, the hate of disbelievers does not prevent from acquitting their rights and behave with them properly;
Allah said:
﴿لاَ
يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَلَمْ
يُخْرِجُوكُم مِّن دِيَارِكُمْ أَن تَبَرُّوهُمْ وَتُقْسِطُوا إِلَيْهِمْ إِنَّ
اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ﴾ [الممتحنة: 8]
The meaning of the verse:
﴾Allâh does not forbid
you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion nor drove you out of your homes. Verily, Allâh loves
those who deal with equity.﴿ [Al-Mumtahana
(The Woman to be examined): 8].
The perfect knowledge belongs to Allah. Our last prayer is all praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. Peace and
blessing be upon our Prophet , his Family, his Companions and Brothers till the Day of
Resurrection.
Algiers, Sha`bân 26th, 1426 H
September 30th, 2005.
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